Most guys know laughter is a great way to win women over. Girl Code’s Alesha Renee talks to Comedy Hype apart of our weekly series ‘Women and Humor’, a discussion with women about humor and relationships. In her interview, Renee explains how she found herself making others laugh on TV, funniest moments in dating, and comedy favorites. See what it means to be a ‘funny asshole’ as Alesha self describes.
CH: I KNOW YOU DID SOME WORK WITH BET IN THE PAST. HOW DID YOU END UP ON GIRL CODE?
AR: I worked with some of the produces on Girl Code when I was working at BET. I started off on Guy Code and I went and got interviewed. They just asked me a couple crazy questions and I guess I answered them correctly. So I did two seasons of Guy Code and then Girl Code came about. They asked me if I would like to move on over to Girl Code and I was like, “Duh, of course!” Be amongst my women.
CH: DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF A COMEDIAN? WHAT DO YOU DEFINE YOURSELF AS?
AR: I don’t like when people say I’m a comedian, because I’m not a comedian. It’s a whole other level of pressure that comes from being a comedian, which is why I have so much respect for my other Girl Code co-stars because these are women that do the stand-up routines and they nail it night after night. I just happen to be a funny asshole. I think it’s a gift just to be funny, but no I couldn’t come up with half of the stuff they do.
CH: SO YOU’RE AN ASSHOLE?
AR: Yeah that’s the best way I can put it. I’m just like real witty and quick on my feet. And I happy to be able to put the funny in a lot of different scenarios, its a gift. I love making other people laugh; it makes me feel good. There’s a honesty in comedy I think as long as you stay true. The biggest lesson I’ve learned from well-seasoned comedians is that you stick to the truth.
CH: NAME A WOMAN IN COMEDY THAT INSPIRED YOU?
AR: Whoopi Goldberg in her younger years, when she was a little more “not-ratchet”. I use to have a mouth on me and I promised my mother I wouldn’t curse as much. So Whoopi Goldberg, I love that she’s funny without being overt in a lot of different ways. She’s not afraid to make fun of herself. I don’t really follow too many comedians per-se, because that’s not my lane. I just love women who are funny. Melissa McCarthy, Cameron Diaz, Gabrielle Union… I just appreciate a comedic woman.
CH: WHAT MAKES YOU LAUGH?
AR: It’s an old movie; some people may not know what I’m talking about. Its this movie called A Low Down Dirty Shame, I love that movie. I still laugh to this day when I see it. I love Chevy Chase in National Lampoon. I just love funny scenarios and situations. I laugh at things that probably most people wouldn’t laugh at.
CH: WHAT’S THE FUNNIEST THING THAT HAS HAPPENED TO YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP?
AR: I’ve had a guy roll up on me before and literally tell me that he Googled me. That made me laugh because usually it’s the woman that goes home and Googles the guy. He Googled and was like, “Yeah I already know who you are because I Googled you!” It definitely turned me off. In my head I’m thinking, “You know you Googled me so you already know what you think you know about me.” I’ve had a guy just tell me all of the things he wouldn’t do for a woman. I’m old fashioned, but he was like, “I’m not opening the door, I’m not doing this, I’m not doing that. I usually don’t even date industry women but you seem like you wasn’t thirsty…” I was like “What? (Starts laughing) How did we get here?”
CH: HOW WAS DATING BEFORE YOU BECAME ALESHA RENEE, LIKE BEFORE THE CELEBRITY?
AR: My dating life has always sucked. When I was growing up it really sucked. Because I’m like 1000 feet tall and I was like stupid poor growing up. I had the sweat pants and thick bottle cap glasses and God didn’t stop taking mercy out on me until I was a junior in high school. I was always last and guys were not checking for me. So it’s always funnynow, especially whenMySpace was a thing, I would get emailsfrom people saying, “Oh I had such a big crush on you…” and I was like, “What? Where were you when I was stuck and I had to take one of my home girls to homecoming cause nobody else wanted to take me?” I think it’s funny now because you just don’t know why people are interested in you. So you have to kind of take things with a grain of salt, but I know I’m not stupid and I know I look fabulous! Now I do have other concerns as far as people’s motives and intentions but I try not to think too much about it and just have fun.
CH: ANY MEMORABLE STORIES?
AR: Oh my gosh! Yes! This guy David Brown! I was in the 6th grade and he was in 8th. I had the biggest crush on David Brown, and it’s so funny because now I see his face and he looks like Count Chocula, like a mixture of Count Chocula and Larenz Tate. I rolled up on him like I was so smooth and I was like “David Brown!” and I had the biggest smile on my face and he was on the block with his boys and he was like, “You like me don’t you?” And I was like, “Yeah I like you so much!” And he was like, “Get out of here with your ugly self!” I mean he just ran me through the mud I was so embarrassed.
CH: ANY REASON WHY YOU THINK HE GAVE YOU THAT RESPONSE?
AR: Well, I was in the 6th grade and he was in the 8th. So I guess he was too hot to try and then I was a nerd. Like I said, we were poor. So it’s not like I dressed well, I had these big thick glasses and was super tall. I don’t know if you guys remember the comedian Anne-Marie Johnson from In Living Color or In The Heat Of The Night. A lot of people compared me to her because I was so thin.
CH: COMEDY CRUSH?
AR: Off the top of head, I don’t really know if he is a comedian vs. a good comedic actor, but like the comedic temperate of Vince Vaughn because he’s funny without trying to be overtly funny. I don’t like slapstick type of comedy guys who are like always on and are never off. There has to be a balance. That’s the thing that could be challenging with comedians because it’s people who are gifted in comedy and you kind of feel like it’s your responsibility to make people laugh. You want people to feel good. It’s that thought process of comedy and humor that makes everything feel better. But sometimes people don’t know how to turn it off. I can’t say I wont ever find myself dating a comedian per-se but probably a guy with a wonderful sense of humor.
CH: EXPLAIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH LAMORNE MORRIS.
AR: I’ve always thought, no disrespect to our beginning because we’re all very grateful for where we started, but I always knew that it was not going to end there for any of us. Lamorne has always had a gift and he has always had this need to want to make people feel better and he always excelled in comedy. He would do jokes when he and I use to host Hot Wyred together and then we hosted BET NOW together so we’ve worked together on two different shows and both times he would have everybody dying from laughter on set, just keeping the party going while we would wait for our next shoot. So the success that he’s having now is never a surprise to me.
CH: WHAT IS SOMETHING YOU WOULD CHANGE ABOUT GUYS?
AR: I wish that in this day and age guys would be more open to chivalry. I think chivalry is becoming a very lost art form. People don’t pick up the phone and call. Now they say, “What’s your twitter handle or your Instagram?” You know that’s basically the extent of them pursuing a woman. Some flirtatious tweet and that’s suppose to work? No! Send a woman some flowers, have a conversation with her, find out what she likes, what she’s in to. Women appreciate those types of things.
CH: SOME WOMEN MAY SEE THAT AS THIRSTY
AR: No! Mind you I said women appreciate that. Girls do that because they don’t know what they want just yet. You understand what I’m saying? But when you’re a woman you do want to be treated a certain way and you want to treat a dude a certain way because you know who you are. Guys who want to date me or pursue me now can’t approach me the way that they use to when I was in high school or college because I was still figuring myself out. Now I’m educated, I have a job, I’m bringing my income to the table, I can cook, and I’m funny. You definitely have to come with it.
CH: WHATS NEXT? WHAT CAN WE LOOK OUT FOR FROM YOU?
AR: Right now I’m in LA so I’ve really been focusing on acting. I’ve been studying, taking classes, and really trying to build myself up. I’m on a short list for a few projects. Once I find out yay or nay then I’ll be able to speak more about it. But really my focus in LA, outside of doing the best that I can on Girl Code, has been acting.