Apart of our ‘Women and Humor’ series we had a chance to catch up with EliteDaily.Com Format Coordinator and SPEAKINGAMERIKY.COM creator, Kylah Benes-Trapp. The NYC resident, California native talked with us exclusively about her dating life, what she finds funny, HBO GIRLS, what inspires her, and more.
KYLAH – WOMEN AND HUMOR
CH: HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOURSELF, LIKE WHAT WOULD PEOPLE SAY ABOUT YOU?
KB: A little weird, a little goofy, maybe awkward even, not the kind of person you want to put on speaker phone without warning. I have many layers but at the same time I don’t take myself too seriously. I have dreams and I’m working to make them all a reality. Once I reach a goal, big or small, I then move on to the next challenge. Having an objective and manifesting my ideas is important because thoughts become things.
CH: WHO OR WHAT ARE SOME OF THINGS THAT MAKE YOU LAUGH ONLINE?
KB: Memes! I don’t know who is out there making these, but thank you good people of the internet. I like GGN hood news. I also listen to a podcast called The Read on soundcloud, is pretty much what a conversation between me and my best friend Monica sounds like. I have a similar sense of humor in many ways.
CH: WHY DO YOU THINK WOMEN ARE SO IN TO ROMANTIC COMEDIES?
KB: I almost feel like those kind of movies are a waste of money, like we know how they are always going to end. Not to say that love or a happy ending isn’t attainable, but I find these big budget hollywood productions to be so corny and un-relatable. Is Booty Call considered a romantic comedy…
CH: FUNNIEST TV SHOW OR MOVIE?
KB: I love HBO’s series GIRLS and also theres a web series on Vimeo called High Maintenance, it’s super funny. But I mostly watch interviews like The Breakfast Club which can be really funny, like the “donkey of the day”segment.
CH: WHO OR WHAT INSPIRES YOU?
KB: A lot inspires me, it could be anything from art or music to watching an interview. Sometimes it feels like I go through inspirational droughts but then something random will spark my imagination and I’m back on a mission to create again. My friends are a big part of what inspires me because they are all so creative and being around them keeps me motivated. Also people I admire like Angie Martinez or Karen Civil who make me feel like I can have a career doing something I am passionate about.
CH: TEXT OR PHONE CALLS? AND WHY?
KB: It all depends, on the situation. When it comes to dating and getting to know someone then, phone calls. Texting doesn’t take much effort, it’s easy…it’s lazy and things can be misinterpreted. We all need to grow a pair, dial the phone number like it’s the 90’s and you’re on your mom’s house phone. Growing up we had no choice, remember. Human interaction is really important since we have all these short cuts that social media has created. People have the option of hiding behind a screen instead of being a little uncomfortable. It’s nerve racking to call, but thats the whole point If you want to get to know someone and eventually create a bond, then making an actual effort is all part of the process.
CH: WHAT MAKES YOU LAUGH?
KB: I probably laugh the most when I’m with my closest friends. We know each other so well that we just go in on anything from pop culture, music, race, to people on Instagram. You know they never should have invented the screen shot or group texts for people like me… I might be going to hell.
CH: WHAT’S THE FUNNIEST THING THAT HAS HAPPENED TO YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP?
KB: I can’t even say.
CH: HOW IMPORTANT IS A SENSE OF HUMOR WHEN IT COMES TO DATING OR IN A RELATIONSHIP?
KB: Very, laughing makes me happy, I couldn’t get through life without it.
CH: HOW WAS DATING FOR YOU IN H.S AND NOW?
KB: When I was a teenager I had that same boyfriend my sophomore through senior year, so never really dated in high school. Dating in your twenties can be a hot mess, at least from past experience men were either crazy, boring or too emotional. But now I don’t date because I have a boyfriend… I’m lucky.
CH: YOU’RE ORIGINALLY FROM CALIFORNIA AND NOW LIVE IN NEW YORK CITY. WHAT’S BEEN THE BIGGEST ADJUSTMENT AND WHATS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE GUYS
KB: The weather will always be better in California hands down. But I’ve heard some of the funniest pick up lines in New York, like I was crossing the street and some guy was trying to hit on me from the passengers window at the red light. He was like, “Ayy ma, I know this looks bad, but I got my own whip. Let me take you out sometime.” I had to laugh. And then theres guys in California who will ask girls for their number and when they get rejected they call the girl a bitch and tell her she was ugly anyway. I mean I”m generalizing but I’ve seen it happen countless times. Theres assholes everywhere and but theres also nice people with common sense and manors too, so you know its all relative.
CH: CELEB CRUSH AND WHY?
KB: I don’t have a crush per say, but there are men in the industry that I admire because they dedicate a large part of themselves to their work and career’s and to me that is a huge part of what makes someone attractive, to be passionate. Men that exude confidence and value their craft as well their morals.
CH: WHAT IS SOMETHING YOU WOULD CHANGE ABOUT GUYS?
KB: I can’t generalize all men, so it’s more about recognizing that we balance each other out. Having a higher regard and appreciation for one another and valuing what we both bring to the table. Different but equal.